One of my biggest struggle as a new mom was realizing that it’s completely OK to put myself first. I remember after I had Simi I literally gave up my social life, and felt I needed to be mommy 24/7 and just even the thought of taking some time for myself made me feel so guilt. Even now after two kids I still find it very hard to take some me time, just leaving the girls with their dad I feel like I need to cut my fun short and hurry back. This is such a horrible mentality and I know I am not the only young Mom that does this, we allow mommy guilt to consume us and very soon you are living in that mommy guilt space. But honestly it’s completely OK to be selfish with mommy time, it’s OK to take an extra hour after work to just have some time to yourself without the kids, or take one day out of the weekend to be left alone.

• Mentally it’s so needed, constantly dealing with little ones and running around and dealing with their tantrums can be not only be draining physically, but especially mentally. There are so many days after dealing with my girls all day, when I feel like I am losing my mind and just completely overwhelmed. So honestly for your sanity it’s OK to be selfish with your time and completely check out once in awhile
• You need a life outside of kids, I totally get it as moms we feel obligated to be everything for our kids. I remember after I had Simi, I felt OK she is mine and so I need to constantly be her mom. Well now she is five and I am realizing as she is growing older, she is becoming her own person and I notice that my life has been so swamped being mommy 24/7 and I honestly don’t even know life before kids (trust me that is both good and bad lol). So just remember to be your own person outside of being Mom, hang out with friends, get your own hobbies because before you know it your kids will grow up and you will feel so empty and almost resent them for growing up and leaving you behind
• It will make you the best version of yourself, when you become everything for everyone you get lost in that and then before you know it you feel stressed and just completely consumed and begin to lose the person you were before it all came about.

So yes it’s completely and absolutely necessary to be selfish with you time, to be honest demand that you get some time for yourself and sow back into your soul cause that’s the ONLY way you can sow back into this child(ren)that needs you.