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Simi turned six years old about two weeks ago, and I am honestly still trying to wrap my head around the fact that I have a whole 6 year old child I can't even deal. But also with her birthday being in January, it can be kind of hard planning fun birthday parties because well she was born in the middle of winter and all the crappy weather. Well this year I kept going back and forth about what to do for her birthday, and since she actually had a count down going I felt even more obligated to make it a memorable birthday. Planning kids birthday parties can be so much especially when you have a critical toddler like mine, who has opinions on everything (she is a hand full lol)  so I wanted to share a few tips to make planning kid's birthday party  successful.

• Location, Location, Location!!! Picking the right location for a birthday party is really what will make or break the party. You want a location that either has a built in package, some places have packages with foods and all the fun included or if it doesn't have a built in package it has tons of options to keep the kids busy. We were able to celebrate Simi's birthday at Epic Water Park and there were so many endless possibilities from the fun to food. From the different water rides, to the fully stocked arcade space, we had so many different ways to keep the girls busy. Also the amazing part of Epic Waters, they have the option to rent a birthday room and you can build your package to your perfect need and want. 

• Find a way to involve the parents and adults in the fun as well. So many times when we plan birthday parties, we focus so much on making it fun and amazing for the kids, which that should be priority but we also tend to forget the adults that will be bringing those kids to the party. So When planning either incorporate fun activities that can be entertaining for the adults or find a location that has a way to keep the parents entertained too. Which was one of the reason why Epic Waters was not only amazing for Simi and Temi, but my husband and I had just as much fun as the girls. We literally spent the entire day at the water park and that because it had something that was interesting for the entire family. My personal favorite ride was the lazy river, the perfect place to relax and recharge from all the excitement with the girls. 
• Most importantly just make sure the celebrant has a great time, one thing I have learnt in being a mom to little girls you could throw the most amazing birthday party but if your toddler doesn't have a good time then that party just sucks. Make sure they get to do all the fun things they are interested for that day. Simi was a big fan of the water slides, and I can't tell you how many times she went down that thing I even got exhausted from watching. But it was her day and we were going to do whatever she liked to keep her busy and the day as fun as possible

• I feel like when you become a mom the idea of sleep and rest become a thing of the past, your life becomes so consumed in this new chapter you realize you are getting less and less sleep. But getting a good night's sleep is one of the most import and probably the most important ways you can continue to be a good mom. I am still learning how to be at least get a full 8 hours of sleep, but I realize implementing the idea of comfort like changing my sheets to these amazing Cariloha Bamboo bed sheets has helped tremendously. But making rest (which honestly means whatever that is to you) and sleep a priority can really do a lot to recharge you and keep you from burning out. 
• Eat and eating right, its funny how many mom's you will ask who just sometimes get so caught up in their day to day and actually forget to eat (one right here lol) Life as a mom can be quite hectic and some days just fly by and you are getting ready for bed at 10 PM trying to remember what you ate today. So just consciously making an effort to eat at least 3 meals per day, and actually making those meals healthy options. 
• Make Time to visit the Doctor, you know how many reminders I set to make sure I don't forget to make my kids doctor appointment or just any type of issues arrives with them health wise I have the doctor's office on speed dial. But I can count how many times on one hand I have done the same for myself. And this isn't because I don't care for my health, but it just comes down to the idea of being too busy or getting carried away, such a cop out excuse honestly but that's just be how crazy life gets. So Just making your health and visiting the doctor as much a priority as your kid's. 

A lot of mom's get into go mode and just continue going, especially when you have more than one your schedule and calendar start to slowly fill up with children related activity and with all that you can easily get carried away about even the simple day to day. What is something off this list you will definitely be implementing or just anything in general you are going to be doing differently?

I remember after I had my first daughter I was stressing majorly, worried every single day about every single thing from how I was doing as a mom, to make sure I was breastfeeding and feeding her enough, to all the minimal problems that arise as a mom. To think now six years later, I have a whole toddler (can you imagine lil ole me, a mom to a full grown toddler chillayyy lol) I have done a pretty decent job in raising her and guess what I haven't broken her and I even have another one and we are surviving just fine. One of the biggest struggles that pretty much all new mom's face is being too hard on ourselves, we all have this sometimes very unrealistic idea of what motherhood should look like and when things don't pan out that way we worry, and then that worry makes us doubt ourselves and our capabilities to be the best moms to our babies. Well I am here to tell you ease off yourself and give yourself a BREAK!!!

• Guess what that little baby is going to be just fine I can promise your that. Except if you are just pure evil and doing every wrong thing in the book (well that is a different conversation) but as long as you have good intentions, and you are making smart decisions for your child then that's all that matters. We really can't control it all and you most certainly can't predict what will come up, but you can prepare as best as you can and then just be ready to learn along the way. 
• You are human, you are bound to make mistakes, you won't do it all right but that is fine and actually I think motherhood was meant for us to make mistakes. If the people before us didn't make mistakes, how would we know what is considered right and wrong today. 
• All the little freak outs and little things you think are big deals, won't matter. There are so many things I freaked out about with Simi, I was so worried I was being a horrible mom cause I had to go back to work FT and take her to daycare in the middle of winter in Colorado. But guess what she is 6 years old now, doesn't remember any of that and honestly the fun family memories far out weigh all the minimal things I ever worried about. 

• Patience, there is no greater time in a parent's life to really understand and practice patience than when you have a toddler in your life. Its a very exhausting time in your life both mentally and physically but you will have to learn to be patient. For me I call it picking my battle, I can either lose my patience and make things worse or let her blow off some steam calm down and then we can try to get to the bottom of what is upsetting her. 
• Let them have their tantrum, one thing I have learnt being a second time mom is that crying never hurt anyone so let them cry it out. My husband hates this but I think my brain and ears has learnt to tune out the screaming and shouting, that my daughter can have a good cry fest for like thirty mins and I don't even get affected by it. But I think as long as you check that its not anything you really can do (ie hungry, hurt themselves or truly needing you) then just let them cry it out, let them roll and scream all over the ground, most times after all that they will probably just take a nice long nap lol. 
• Be understanding of the fact that your toddler is still learning to express themselves, this is something that we as parents tend to forget (even with being a second time mom I had to learn this all over) that at that age they are still learning how to differentiate emotions, learning how to talk and how to be dependent for themselves so with that brings on a lot of mixed emotions and just learning to adjust. 

Being a mom especially to young ones, I know that feeling of trying to make it to the New Year and just leave all the stress of the holidays behind in the past year. But then we enter the new year feeling like wait I am not quite ready, anyone else feel like this once the new year starts? Well I have been there and I think the biggest lesson I have learnt in order to not have yet another crazy, hectic and overwhelmed year you need to set yourself up for success