Respect your lane: Beating insecurity in our social media world

by - November 16, 2016

The other day I was watching a video on Patricia Bright's YouTube page, she spoke on how the internet has made her insecure and made her doubt herself on things because she compares herself with others and questions herself on certain things. As I watched the video I literally felt she was speaking to my soul, I did a post last year called keeping up with the gram and how much our lives have become so focused on social media, and pretty much a lot of things people shoot for these days is based on what they see on others social media pages. Insecurity is something we all deal with, even the most confident person has something they are insecure about but, with the new age of social media and the internet those insecurities are put on display for people to dissect and nitpick at even more.

 I have always had my insecurities but, prior to being a mom it wasn't something I focused on or allowed to impact my life because prior to being a mom I was a carefree twenty-two-year-old that didn't have real worries. But when I became a mom life changed, its stopped being about me and instead about this new life that I had to nurture and protect so all my insecurities were pushed to the forefront. And with the help of social media it was a thousand times worse. I would spend so much time and energy looking at people's pages that I didn't even know, comparing what they were doing for their child and how much their child was developing and just beat myself up because I felt oh their daughter is the same age as mine so she should already be crawling and as a first-time mom it made it much harder to be the best mom I could be. Even now I still beat myself up, and just constant comparing and just not letting myself enjoy my life for what it is, not going to lie there are plenty of things I want to do and I feel like I have missed out on somethings just because of where my life is now doesn't necessarily align with some of the things I want. But if there is one thing I have learnt through all this, and just in growing up is that everyone's life is different and everyone's path isn't aligned the same way so instead of focusing on the things I don't have or can’t do instead focus on the blessings I already have because the things I have now are what others are wishing for and I can't even enjoy it because I am too worried about the little part of someone's life that they choose to share on snap-chat. Lets' be real, no mom is ever going to show you when their child has a poop explosion, or has a full-blown tantrum in the middle of target, and you are never going to see the videos of those horrible fights with their loved ones or the unfiltered real “no-make-up” pictures when they aren’t looking fly because who honestly wants to see that.

So a new practice I have started is instead of picking up my phone first thing in the morning and scrolling through social media and just entering those negative voices and feelings into my day, I instead start my day reading some devotionals and then listening to uplifting music, I have noticed the difference in the tone of my day and also in my outlook of the day.  I start the day feeling so much better about my life and my day because, I didn't start my day in someone else's life but instead mentally preparing MY own day. I would love to hear about your experience with insecurity, and learning to live in this social media driven world of ours and not letting it have so much power over your own life. What are some good habits you all have picked up as well let me know in the comments 😊?

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