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Being a new mom is already a very daunting and hard task, then imagine if you are miles away from family and friends doing it all on your own and having no support other than your partner, it can be quite draining both emotionally and physically. One of my biggest fear when I relocated to the Dallas after getting married was the fear of being so far from family and then my kids not being close to family and getting to do holidays and birthdays with family it can be an emotional thing to think of honestly but lets be real there are people raising way more kids, and even further from family and totally kicking butt at it. Here are a few things I have learnt along the way to implement and also to help make it less lonely being so far away from family.

  • Make it feel like home as best as you can, honestly its never gonna fully feel like home cause well it just ain't home. But the reality is you and your family are in this new place now and you have to build your own memories, so be willing to step out of your comfort zone and build your own village.
  • Stay connected with family, thankfully we live in technology driven world where you can connect with anyone at anytime of the day all around the world. So its so easy to keep them involved in your lives, and keep the kids having a relationship with them. Also its good way to have some outlet to speak with family and feel less alone. 
  • Build solid relationships, this is easier said that done but honestly when you are away from family you need support you need people in your corner. Especially when you have little kids its good having people you feel confident helping to watch the kids when you need some alone time for yourself or your marriage.
  • Switch your mentality about the whole idea of being far away from family, like I said its very hard being a way from family and support but once you are away you have to come to a realization that this is the present situation and make the best of it. For me it took a little while to come to this point, but once me and my husband decided that Dallas was going to be our home for now, then I had to have a mental switch about the situation and stop dwelling on it all. 

Being a new mom away from family and close friends really can take a toll on one's mental state, it can make you feel very alone and helpless, but you have to be willing focus on the positives of it rather than negative. And the wonderful thing about being a way from immediate family is you allow yourself to grow independently and be your own type of mom and the great thing about family is they will always have your back whether near or far.


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I feel like kids hit a point in their toddler-hood (totally just coined this term now lol) where they just start to hate food, some kids deal with that point a lot longer and it hits them a lot harder than others. As a new mom I dealt with this, having a child that absolutely loved everything and would eat every type of food, to all of a sudden hitting 2 years old and despising everything. Honestly I wasn't expecting and I was scared that she was losing weight and not eating a balanced meal. But let me just say this to all the new moms out there its a phase, because now my 2 years old who is now 5 years old literally eats everything and is constantly hungry and wanting to eat all day long. The reality is kids have to grow their palette, they need to learn what they like and don't like and when they hit around that 1.5 or 2 years old mark they start to make that decision  on if they want to eat something or not. So I thought I would share some tricks that will help make this bump in the road.
  • Make dinning time fun! Try even if your child is fussy or just not trying to have it still make the dinning experience fun for them. Incorporating fun music or even fun eating utensils such as oogaa baby is such a game changer, it peeks their interest and even gets them interested in even feeding themselves. I especially love their fun spoons sets, it is appeasing to your little one and gives you a chance to play with them while feeding them as well. 
  • Pick your battle! Be willing to bend the rules and give them what they want. The way I see it a fed child is better than a fussy one who isn't gonna eat but fight you the entire time. With Simi she went through a phase where literally all you wanted to seat was mac n' cheese, so guess what for a month straight all she ate was just that. The way I saw it was should I keep fighting her and also wasting my food, or just make what she wants to eat so I did just that. 
  • Be patient, honestly its so frustrating and also a very worrisome if all your child wants to eat all day is strawberry or just one specific type of food all day long. There was a point where we worried she was becoming too lean and just not growing up as a healthy child, but the reality is this is just a phase very soon you will be begging your child not to eat your entire house down. So just be patient and let it run its course. 

It is quite a journey being a parent to little ones, and the reality of having little humans is they will test every little part of your being and push buttons. Just understand that you are not the only one in this boat, and it is just a phase and your most important role as the mom is just being understanding of that and also use it as a chance to get to understand what your child likes cause they are building those favorites meals at this point. 



***This is a sponsored blog post, all the opinions and words are all mine based on my personal experiences***

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