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Are there any moms out there that feel like you are constantly missing out on all the fun? motherhood FOMO (fear of missing out) can be such a sucky thing especially when all your close friends are single women with no kids and their priorities are way off from yours. The first couple years after I had Simi I struggled coming to terms with the fact that my life was going to change so much, and I would be missing out on all the single girl turn up. To be honest one of the reasons I struggled to adjust was because of that, mentally I just wasn’t ready to be a mom and I couldn’t see myself giving up on all my “luxuries” I was used to. A few things that I have learnt as I have gotten more mentally mature as a mother is:

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I remember having a conversation with a girlfriend of mine a month or so before I got married, and she asked me which I thought would be harder being a mom or being a wife? At the time I thought being a mom would be harder because, well being a mom is hard and every day brings a new challenge but after being married now and experiencing the reality of marriage, I would like to change my answer and say being a wife is definitely harder than being a mom lol.

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I remember when I decided to take my blog a little more seriously and be dedicated to it. To be honest, I started this blog just because I wanted to have a space to share my new life in Dallas and balancing my new role of wife with being a mother. I wasn't too sure what I would be sharing on the blog, but I knew it would be a pretty personal blog.
Anyway as I started to blog more and join other networks of lifestyle/motherhood bloggers, I started to see a pretty prevalent pattern mommy bloggers pretty much all look the same way. Not to be controversial or too heavy but, one thing I have learnt in my life is that representation matters. Ya I know you are thinking well motherhood is the same all across the board, and we all deal with pretty much the same basic struggles. You are so right but, the reality is that there is comfort in knowing someone that looks just like you deals with those issues as well. And to be honest there are certain struggles that some moms just won't get, for example not all moms will understand the struggle of having to figure out how to style their little girls kinky 4c hair, or explain a different standard of beauty and why we can't style her hair like Elsa's and her hair just will never look like Elsa's.


 And I just felt like there were plenty of mommy bloggers out there, but not a lot that do focus on those different types of struggles. And so for that reason I decided to be serious about my blog, to speak on those general struggles we all deal with as moms and wives, but also focus on these other struggles that are not very common. My hope is to be able to create a space where all mom's can come and learn and gain something, but also a space to speak on those other things that not everyone understands. Because I know as a millennial young African mom and wife there are certain things that I just wish someone else got and could share their experience on. I hope that my experiences can be of help to someone, and I can also learn from others. I would love to hear what you all as my readers would love to see on the blog as well?




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best stores to buy kids clothes
Having girls is one of the most exciting things ever, getting to dress them up in the most beautiful colors and I don't care what any one says but shopping for girls clothing is way more fun. As Simi is getting older, she is starting to get her own fashion sense and let me just tell you she is quite the fashionista, maybe even more fashionable than her mama. As she getting more opinionated in her clothing, and getting to pick out her own outfits I am having to do better about shopping for her. As the weather is changing and warmer weather days are approaching we are starting to change out her wardrobe and shop for spring/summer style clothing. So I thought I would share a few of my fave stores to get cute and affordable fashionable toddler pieces.


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Its so crazy thinking its been 12 wonderful months of watching this little lady grow up and change everyday, I am thankful that life gave me the chance to spend most of those 12 months at home and really enjoy the joys of motherhood with her. She has truly changed in twelve months, officially a pro at this walking business and literally running the house now with all her boss life moves lol.


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